When You’re In The Wilderness

When you’re traveling through the wilderness, and it feels like life is hitting you with everything it’s got, it’s amazing to finally look up and see the growth that has occurred. Like many of you, I’ve been going through a storm in my life and truthfully, it’s been extremely hard to navigate. I think the main lesson here is that I shouldn’t be navigating… period. But that’s for another blog post.

This season of my life has put me in some pretty low places and has had me asking extremely important yet vague questions. I’ve been so low that anxiety attacks and breakdowns often occur, and I’ve been so confused and full of questions like, “What’s the point,” “What am I even doing here on this Earth,” “What’s my purpose,” “If I’m supposed to go the heaven, and that’s the goal, what is the point of this lifetime,” the list goes on.

But with all of that said, just recently, I got a chance to look up and realized just how far God has taken me through this season. So here is a little bit of what I’ve learned so far traveling through the wilderness.

God Is Still With You In The Wilderness

I must say, I never thought God left me during this season; He’s been with me all the time, but He’s been quiet. It’s weird to move from a season where God is chatty, and I’m talkative, and we’re really “vibing,” and I can feel Him and see Him moving, to a season when I’ll pray, and I start to wonder if He’s heard, or if He cares, or if He’s a little too busy for me. But if I’ve learned anything from Bible stories, it’s that God is still there. He’s always there, even when you’re in the wilderness. That was true of the Israelites when they were traveling from Egypt to The Promise Land, and it was also true of Jesus when spent 40 days and nights in the wilderness. God was there, the whole time.


If you take nothing else from this blog post, please understand the power of perspective. It truly can change your life, and it’s something I’ve been working on for the past few weeks. After weeks of breakdowns, crying, and then finally realizing that things aren’t going to change, I need to, I adopted a new perspective. Often times, it’s just that, understand that things won’t get better, but you can. More often than not, it’s counting your blessings a little more than you have in the past, or seeing a situation from some else’s point of view. Whatever it is, I promise a change in perspective will do wonders for you and your ability to get through this tough season. Keep in mind, much of the time, the season you’re in has a lot to do with how you wait. I’m sure the Israelites who ended up wandering for 40 years when they should have reached The Promise Land in 11 days could tell you better than I can.

Trials Produce Growth

I’ve heard it many times before that you can only grow when you’re going through something, and I am here to say that is true. It’s true for when you’re building physical muscles, and it’s true for when you’re building spiritual muscles.

You don’t build muscle by just hanging out and being comfortable. You build muscle by lifting, working, running, etc. That’s how you grow your muscle tissue. So that’s the same for your spiritual muscles. You can’t grow when you’re comfortable and what’s more uncomfortable and growth producing than a good ‘ole fashion test, trial, or walk through the wilderness?


I don’t know what the Lord is preparing me for, but I do know He has taken me through the wilderness to prepare me, and because of that, I am stronger. One place, in particular, I have found myself to be stronger is in my mind. This wasn’t an easy one. I am a thinker guy, and because of that, I can think myself into great moods, bad moods, sad moods, whatever emotion, I can think myself into it. But because I’m only human, I often think myself into the lowest, most unhappy thoughts. This season has caused me to work on my mental. God exposed my weakness, humbled me to the ground about it, and then showed me that through Him alone I can overcome my thoughts.

He also changed my thoughts towards work. I find this so ironic that He changed my perspective on work during a season I’m not really working (full-time). Like LOL, God is funny! Despite not having a full-time job, He has shown me the importance of being grateful, being humble, stewarding small beginnings, and hustling. I always thought of myself as a hard worker, but this season and being an adult in general, has really taught me what hard work is, and how to stay consistent when you feel overlooked, uninspired, unappreciated, and bored.

To say the least, the Lord is working on me, in the wilderness, and for that, I am thankful.

I’ll end with this… recently, I heard a pastor say, something along the lines of, “Sometimes you’re not moving out of this season because you haven’t thanked or praised God yet.” That wasn’t the exact quote, but my take away from it was, you need to thank God for what He’s giving you, but you also need to thank Him for what He’s about to bring you into.

Praise Him for what you’re believing for as if you already have it and see what happens. Thank Him for what you’re believing for and see what He does. I find myself getting into a habit of always asking God for things, but rarely praising Him, or thanking Him for what I do have, and for the things He is doing but I can’t see. I’ve been making an effort to change this, and I hope you do too.

Until next time, get up, get moving, and be salt & light!



Thoughts on my 23rd

As I enter into my 23rd year, I come with pure joy. A feeling I don’t believe I’ve ever truly felt before, until now. Joy from the grace God has given me and the patience He has shown me, specifically in my walk with Him. But also joy, because of how He has gently restored me, even though I don’t deserve it.

His patience to wait on me to buy into His goodness and understand His reckless and never-ending love that can be found nowhere else but in Him has meant everything to me. And because of that, I plan to remain faithful all my days and practice long-suffering until the day I see His face. Because kindness like this isn’t something, you forget. It changes you. It gives you peace. It’s something you tell and show the world because words simply aren’t enough.

It’s fruit.

Things I’ve Learned at 23

1. Plan

You can plan all you want, and still, God has the final say. Become comfortable with submitting your wants to Him, but also understand that when your plans don’t come to pass, the author and creator of your faith is overseeing your life. Things will work out as they should, and He has your best interest in mind.

2. You’ll Have Questions

Questions… that’s the polite way to say doubts. Whether you have questions about your purpose or your role here on Earth, there will always be things you think of that God hasn’t fully revealed to you.  The crazy thing is, some of those things might not be answered in this lifetime, and that’s okay. But one thing I will say is, meet your doubts with faith every time. Sometimes you won’t have all the answers, but if you had all the answers, it wouldn’t be faith. Let faith be the bridge between your doubts and God’s plans that you can’t see.

3. Pros & Cons

There are pros and cons to everything. I know this is a simple concept and yet it has taken me 23 years to understand. Every decision has a consequence whether good or bad, and once you are able to truly see the two in every decision, then you will make better and more informed ones.

Things I’m Thankful For at 23

1. Perspective

I never knew the power of perspective until recently. Perspective can have you feeling like the scum of the Earth or the luckiest and most blessed person in the world all while dealing with the same circumstance. Protect your mind, and keep your perspective in order. It’s so important, and I’m thankful for the change in perspective I’ve had this year.

2. Family

It’s funny, I feel like I always put this one, but it’s true. There isn’t a year that goes by where I’m not more thankful for my family than the last. You can’t choose family but God gave me a pretty good bunch, and they mean the world to me.

3. Chosen Family

In this year I’ve lost a lot of friends, I’ve gained a few, and I’ve kept a few as well. My support system (chosen family) has played a big role in my life this year as I’ve grown to understand the power of community. I’m thankful for the people in my life who put up with me, hold me together, encourage me and do life with me, daily.

Goals for 23

1. Continue to grow my faith.

2. Nurture the relationships in my life.

3. Better understand/find my purpose.

Twenty-two was an amazing year, and I’m VERY excited to see what 23 holds. Until next time, get up, get moving and be salt & light.

Graduation, the Job Hunt, and A Rude Introduction to Adulting

We’ve all been there before, and if you haven’t, well, you will. You’re at an outing with friends and family, and the dreaded question comes up. You know, the question about your future. “What are your plans after graduation?” It’s a loaded question because while some people have it together, others don’t… most of us don’t.

With graduation less than a few weeks away for some and real adulthood looming in the air, I thought it would be fun to check in with a few of my friends and make sure that I’m not the only one struggling to find my next step.

Figuring out life after graduation can be hard. When you go to college, you know you’re generally locked in for a 3-5 year commitment depending on what plan you’re on. But when choosing a job, and even better, a career, it’s not the same. There is no set timeline and generally no designated path or footsteps for you to follow unless you follow in the footsteps of your parents or a fantastic mentor.

So with that said, I decided to interview a few of my friends about their thoughts on the job hunt process, graduation, and semi-adulting. Here is what they had to say.

Q: Thoughts on the job search?


“The job search. What comes to mind immediately is the line from Friends where Phoebe exhales and says, ‘I don’t even have a pla-.’ Currently, the biggest struggle I find is continuing to fill out applications, usually online, and submitting into the void of the internet without the guarantee of a response.”


“It was pretty stressful yet rewarding at the same time. I applied to about nine jobs and got second round interviews with all of them.”

Q: Advice to anyone looking for a job?


“Don’t let rejection get you down. Be persistent. I applied to 50 places before getting three offers. That’s 6%. That’s rough!”


“Be as persistent and prepared as possible when it comes to the interviewing/application process. I found that simple things like following up, asking questions, engaging in constant conversations with the people I wanted to hire me really set me apart. It showed them that I was interested as well as quasi-determined to get hired and contribute to their organization.”

Q: What are you most looking forward to after graduation?


“Spending a summer with my family, it’s been a long time since I lived at home for more than 2 weeks.”


“Looking forward, a new beginning is starting. My baseline goal for when I start something new is: to leave things better than when I got there. Better cannot always be quantified or calculated, but better can be felt by the people you interact with and the culture you create. It is satisfying to look at this chapter (college) and know that I have made a positive impact and know that there is more out there in the world. It is encouraging to look to the new chapter and envision how to continue to make the next place better.”


So it’s safe to say that, the job search and adulting are not easy. The big takeaways here are that:

  1. The job search is stressful but rewarding.
  2. Persistence is key.
  3. There is a lot to look forward to after graduation. It’s a time of opportunity.

From my perspective, I echo the sentiments about being persistent. My job hunt process was less than glamorous, and I can say that’s probably true for most graduates looking for a job. It’s hard to submit quality applications and hear nothing back. But I will say networking is essential. The saying goes, “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know,” and that couldn’t be more true for finding your first job, and probably every other job after that.

With that said, if the job hunt and the responsibility of adulting after graduation have you down, know that there is hope. As Morgan alluded to, there is so much opportunity in the new beginnings coming your way. It’ll all be worth it in the end.

I want to say a huge thank you to Morgan, Elaine, and Wes for featuring in this post and for willingly giving honest advice about what it’s like to graduate, look for a job and semi-adult at the same time.

Let me know your plans after graduation in the comments below and your thoughts on the job hunt process. Sometimes it’s good to know you’re not alone in this whole “adulting” thing.

Until next time, get up, get moving, and live your best life.